ANGER MANAGEMENT SERIES: FORGIVE; DON’T FORGET by Sam Babatunde Obafemi

forgiveOne major limitation we face in our attempts to master Anger is the tendency to be Vindictive. It is difficult for many of us NOT be vindictive: holding on to a past grudge (consciously or unconsciously) and restraining ourselves from being wholesome because of the effect of being vindictive. Being vindictive is Self-disparaging. It is you who ultimately gets ‘boxed in’. In Anger Mastery though, we validate that it is IMPOSSIBLE to fully forget an offence. You may not remember spontaneously every time but when a similar occurrence happens, your mind finds a former occurrence and flags a memory. Therefore: we say FORGIVE but don’t pretend to FORGET. You are an Active; Living mind… to Forget is not humanly practical. To Forgive:

1. Take Your Own Time & at Your Own Pace to Let go

2. Choose to Do it. Don’t be coerced to Forgive

3. Seek Help to attain a quicker pace/rate of Forgiving:

Pray, Ask Better minded people, emulate better characters…

Anger can be mastered.

Let’s do it.

M a k t u b!!!

Samuel Obafemi is a  Mind & Emotion Therapist, Stress Management, Anger Mastery & Emotional Intelligence Expert, Life Coach and Mgt Consultant.Follow him on twitter@sobafemi to find out more.

 

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